Here's an interesting query for ya'll.
I have a friend who, I think, is a really awesome guy. However, I can also very easily see how he may not be particularly appealing to a large portion of prospective romantic partners. Think the Seth Rogen stoner type, except less in shape and with a much more weird and socially inappropriate sense of humor.
He has been dating a very nice girl for a few years now. It's the first girl he's been with ever. She shares his sense of humor (more or less, I don't think anyone actually shares it fully) and seems to like him. She's been mildly pressuring him to consider marriage (nothing intense) and he's discussed his feelings with me. Many of which involve him being unhappy about only being with one girl his entire life and never having experienced anything else and his doubts that this girl is "the one".
Normally in this situation, I would say something along the lines of 'if you're not fully committed to her don't do it', 'there's plenty of other women out there', etc etc. But, if I'm being completely honest (and I don't like it that I think this), I think his chances of finding someone more compatible to him are extremely slim just due to his nature.
I don't think every single person 'needs' to be with someone. However, I do think that most of his reservations come not from a dislike of his gf, but rather a dissatisfaction that he isn't living/hasn't lived the societally-pushed-upon-us male standard of 'playing the field' kind of thing.
I also feel like a big hypocrite, because in general, I agree with the societally-pushed-upon-us standard of being with multiple people before deciding if one is right for you, and I have espoused this viewpoint many times among my group of friends.
What are your thoughts? Keep in mind, the situation is already passed and I think I handled it correctly, I just can anticipate the myriad responses that this thread will cause (many of which will be negative comments towards me for sure) and thought it would be a fun Friday thread.
I have a friend who, I think, is a really awesome guy. However, I can also very easily see how he may not be particularly appealing to a large portion of prospective romantic partners. Think the Seth Rogen stoner type, except less in shape and with a much more weird and socially inappropriate sense of humor.
He has been dating a very nice girl for a few years now. It's the first girl he's been with ever. She shares his sense of humor (more or less, I don't think anyone actually shares it fully) and seems to like him. She's been mildly pressuring him to consider marriage (nothing intense) and he's discussed his feelings with me. Many of which involve him being unhappy about only being with one girl his entire life and never having experienced anything else and his doubts that this girl is "the one".
Normally in this situation, I would say something along the lines of 'if you're not fully committed to her don't do it', 'there's plenty of other women out there', etc etc. But, if I'm being completely honest (and I don't like it that I think this), I think his chances of finding someone more compatible to him are extremely slim just due to his nature.
I don't think every single person 'needs' to be with someone. However, I do think that most of his reservations come not from a dislike of his gf, but rather a dissatisfaction that he isn't living/hasn't lived the societally-pushed-upon-us male standard of 'playing the field' kind of thing.
I also feel like a big hypocrite, because in general, I agree with the societally-pushed-upon-us standard of being with multiple people before deciding if one is right for you, and I have espoused this viewpoint many times among my group of friends.
What are your thoughts? Keep in mind, the situation is already passed and I think I handled it correctly, I just can anticipate the myriad responses that this thread will cause (many of which will be negative comments towards me for sure) and thought it would be a fun Friday thread.
Telling a friend they can't do any better?
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