I've been dating a girl for a couple of months. In the beginning she had given me some hints that she's had a particularly rough life, but I didn't really want to ask her questions about it at the beginning until she was comfortable talking about it.
Anyway, she has an abusive ex-boyfriend. While he never physically harmed her, he had a violent temper which resulted in smashing things around the apartment, such as furniture, plates, etc - so she was constantly living in fear.
Without going into too much detail, some of the crazy shit he's pulled off includes:
- Smashing the side of her car requiring a complete replacement of the side body
- Threatening to commit suicide if she ever broke up with him, and threatening suicide after she broke up with him
- Harassing her landlord and other 3rd parties to humiliate her
All of this happened a few years ago. There haven't been any instances for about a year. He still tries to contact her but she ignores him. I don't think he knows we're dating yet, but I think he'll find out eventually. Some immediate concerns are her safety and mine. Other concerns involve uncertainty in how fast I should move the relationship forward. She's an amazing woman and I really want to make this work. I appreciate any advice. Thanks.
Anyway, she has an abusive ex-boyfriend. While he never physically harmed her, he had a violent temper which resulted in smashing things around the apartment, such as furniture, plates, etc - so she was constantly living in fear.
Without going into too much detail, some of the crazy shit he's pulled off includes:
- Smashing the side of her car requiring a complete replacement of the side body
- Threatening to commit suicide if she ever broke up with him, and threatening suicide after she broke up with him
- Harassing her landlord and other 3rd parties to humiliate her
All of this happened a few years ago. There haven't been any instances for about a year. He still tries to contact her but she ignores him. I don't think he knows we're dating yet, but I think he'll find out eventually. Some immediate concerns are her safety and mine. Other concerns involve uncertainty in how fast I should move the relationship forward. She's an amazing woman and I really want to make this work. I appreciate any advice. Thanks.
Dealing with an abusive ex-boyfriend
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